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Lactation Link June 2nd Breastfeeding Basics Class presented by Bravado Designs — PLUS PROMO CODES

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We had a fabulous Breastfeeding Basics class presented by Bravado Designs on June 2nd at the Loft at Brick Canvas, located in the heart of Thanksgiving Point in Lehi, Utah! I loved teaching and getting to know all of our Lactation Link mamas (and supporting partners)! Helping create confidence in motherhood is what Lactation Link is all about. We also had a lot of fun with grab bags from our sponsors like Bravado Designs, Milk Snob, Sweet ‘n Swag and our yummy lunch from Village Baker Lehi!  

Here is what one mom had to say about the class:

Click through for more photos, a sneak peak into the Breastfeeding Basics class, and AMAZING promo codes from our event sponsors!

Lactation Link Breastfeeding Basics Class Sponsors

Bravado Designs has the BEST bras for pregnant and nursing Mamas! You can check out this blog post to read my 3 nursing must – haves (Hint – Bravado has them all!) They also just released their brand new Nursing Invisible Bra — and WOW. Not only is it gorgeous, but it might literally be the softest bra I’ve ever felt

I’ve partnered with Bravado to get you 15% off your purchase! Use the code ‘LACLINK’ when you check out!

Their  Belle Underwire Nursing Bra is the dreamiest bra you could ever hope for. Their Clip and Pump Bra is also a necessity for any mom planning to pump! Every mama deserves to have these comfortable bras, especially when you will be wearing them constantly! Use the code ‘LACLINK’ for 15% off your purchase!

Janae Kristen photography captured all these exquisite images for us at this class.  She has also captured many of the beautiful images shown in our classes, website, and on social media.  She does a beautiful job for weddings, maternity, newborn and lifestyle photography in Utah and is available to travel! She has offered an INCREDIBLE discount of $100 off birth stories when you mention this blog post!  Contact her directly at hello@janaekristen.com to book!

Dr. Nice Breast Gel is an amazing all natural product! There is no reason breastfeeding should be painful – and this gel helps ensure that! You can use for sore, chapped, cracked, or chafed nipples. You can use the gel before, during, and after breastfeeding! You can apply straight from the bottle and keep in the fridge so that it is even more soothing – plus the smell is amazing! Use the code “DRNICEGOLD” on Amazon to receive 20% off!

Sweet n Swag also included a pair of adorable infant moccasins in every grab bag. You can use code ‘LLINK’ for 15% off total purchase on their site.

We were super excited to share Bamboobies with our moms. They are a great option for nursing pads – comfortable, reusable, and environmentally-friendly! (Plus they come in an adorable heart shape!) You can save 20% using the code “LLINK20” on their site.

Undercover Mama gave each mom a discount on one of their signature nursing tanks. It loops into any nursing bra! You can get 20% off by using the code “LLINK” on their site!

Fair Haven Health provided each mama with thawing breastmilk guidelines on a magnet, a milk bag, and 10% off, by using the code “MILKIES10” any purchase on their site! They have a variety of products that are helpful for all new mamas!

Havah Tribe included an exclusive coupon for our in-person attendees – check out their trendy nursing friendly clothes!

RxBar provided each mama with a delicious bar to help fuel them throughout the class – we love that all of the ingredients are listed on the bar!

I love that Sonnet James is all about helping moms be stylish and still free to have fun in their clothes! Check out their amazing summer dresses!

Our VIP ticket holders received a Milk Snob nursing cover AND an amazing gift card to Gathre AND they also receive all three of my online classes!

The Milk Snob covers are so useful to have, have four different uses (nursing cover, car seat cover, shopping cart cover, and scarf!) and also they look good! We even had moms using them during our class!  

Gathre has amazing mats that are vegan, double sided, and beautiful! Check out their website to see the numerous types of mats they have!

All of our mamas also received some Milestones cards so families can capture their new baby’s breastfeeding milestones! (When you purchase our 3 video breastfeeding class bundle, you receive breastfeeding specific milestone cards to document your journey!)

Not only do our in-person Breastfeeding Basics class attendees get the best breastfeeding education and hands-on practice, Q&A time with our staff of breastfeeding experts, a delicious lunch from the Village Baker, a whole support network of new friends and lactation experts…they go home with grab bags worth over $230 when they purchased the general admission ticket, and over $480 when they purchase the VIP ticket!

It’s so important to me that all the mama’s in our community know how much I value these sponsors! Being able to hold these in-person classes at such an incredible rate PLUS send mama’s home with so many goodies makes me so happy! And I couldn’t do it without them!

Class Instruction

All the goodies are the icing on the cake after my presentation of the best research-based breastfeeding tips and tricks. This includes info on the first feed, how to latch, how to hand-express and more! One tip I shared in class is taking advantage of the quiet-alert state to feed baby, rather than waiting until they are overly hungry and upset.

Hailey said, “I loved the hands-on breakout groups, and getting to learn from each of the consultants. The content was incredibly helpful and easy to understand. The Q&A portion was also very helpful.”

This is ALWAYS my goal with teaching! I want every person to walk away knowing more about breastfeeding and feeling more confident!

We love hearing what our moms have to say about the Breastfeeding Basics class. Here is what a couple moms said…

Hands-on Learning

We were super excited to have so many moms and partners in class. In order for each person to get individual hands-on practice, we broke out into three groups led by our expert team of IBCLCs.

Brianne taught about positioning. Knowing multiple positions beforehand is so helpful so that you don’t have to stress about learning them once baby is here!

Stephanie taught all about latch —  We had a fun object lesson using balloons — don’t forget, baby’s’ chin is basically a magic open button!

Kristin went over hand expression – Remember to start hand expressing right away after giving birth to maximize your colostrum output!  

And I went over pumping – remember not to stress if you don’t pump as much as you think you should initially, and to make sure you’re in a comfortable environment while pumping. You can even watch videos of your little babe to help with the let down reflex!

Mingling & Photo-booth

We don’t like to let pregnant mamas sit too long, so we had a break to stretch our legs and have a little fun! Our lunch break was phenomenal, because Village Baker Lehi provided every attendee with a delicious sandwich or salad, chips, and cookie the size of my face!

We also had a fun photo booth for moms to take pictures at before, during, and after instructional time! We love being able to see all the glowing mamas (and partners!) shine in these pictures!

Mullbery House made this beautiful sign for our photo wall – and we’re obsessed! You can check out more of their work here!

Q+A

We make sure that our attendees are able to have time to ask their questions. Making sure our community of moms feels supported and heard is a big part of who we are. Moms were welcome to ask questions during the presentations and we had designated Q&A time at the end. If you still have questions, please feel free to reach out!

More classes and events

If you couldn’t make it to this class, we have you covered! You can check out our video breastfeeding classes and you can watch them anytime, anywhere, from any smart device (and they never expire!).

Our next class Breastfeeding Basics class will be on September 15th 10 am – 2 pm at Brick Canvas Loft in Lehi, UT. You can book tickets now via Eventbrite! From now until August 1st we have early bird pricing — after that ticket costs will go up! So hurry and snag yours while they are at an amazing deal!

Grab your seat now, we always sell out! Click here to see ticket options!

Can’t wait to help another group of parents create confidence in their breastfeeding journey!

Thanks for stopping by!

XOXO,

Lindsey Shipley + The Lactation Link Team

Lactation Link February 3rd Breastfeeding Basics Class presented by Bravado Designs + Promo Codes

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We had a fabulous Breastfeeding Basics class presented by Bravado Designs on February 3rd at the Loft at Brick Canvas, located in the heart of Thanksgiving Point in Lehi, Utah! I loved teaching and getting to know all of our Lactation Link mamas (and supporting partners)! Helping create confidence in motherhood is what Lactation Link is all about. We also had a lot of fun with grab bags from our sponsors like Bravado Designs, Milk Snob, Sweet ‘n Swag and our yummy lunch from Village Baker Lehi!  

Here is what one mom had to say about the class:

Click through for more photos, a sneak peak into the Breastfeeding Basics class, and AMAZING promo codes from our event sponsors!

Lactation Link Breastfeeding Basics Class Sponsors

Not only do our in-person Breastfeeding Basics class attendees get the best breastfeeding education and hands-on practice, Q&A time with our staff of breastfeeding experts, a delicious lunch from the Village Baker, a whole support network of new friends and lactation experts…they go home with grab bags worth over $230 when they purchased the general admission ticket, and over $480 when they purchase the VIP ticket!

Bravado Designs has the BEST bras for pregnant and nursing Mamas! And right before the class – they released their brand new Belly and Back: Multi-Zone Pregnancy Support Band! This support band is the mother of all support bands! It has SEVEN targeted knit-in support zones! I know mamas can become very uncomfortable during pregnancy — so we partnered with Bravado to get you 15% off your purchase! Use the code ‘LACLINK’ when you check out!

Their  Belle Underwire Nursing Bra is the dreamiest bra you could ever hope for. Their Clip and Pump Bra is also a necessity for any mom planning to pump! Every mama deserves to have these comfortable bras, especially when you will be wearing them constantly! Use the code ‘LACLINK’ for 15% off your purchase!

Moby Wraps were a huge hit with everyone at our class! These wraps are a must have for every mom!  They promote skin-to-skin contact (and all the benefits that come with it!) and also leave your hands free to attend to an older baby or get a few things done.

Each attendee received a Milk Snob nursing cover. These covers are so useful to have, have four different uses (nursing cover, car seat cover, shopping cart cover, and scarf!) and also they look good! We even had moms using them during our class!  

Sweet n Swag also included a pair of adorable infant moccasins in every grab bag. You can use code ‘LLINK’ for 15% off total purchase on their site.

We were super excited to share Bamboobies with our moms. They are a great option for nursing pads – comfortable, reusable, and environmentally-friendly! Our mamas also received some of their comforting Nipple Balm and Pumping Lubricant. You can save 20% using the code “LLINK20” on their site.

Undercover Mama gave each mom a voucher for on one of their signature nursing tanks. It loops into any nursing bra! You can get 20% off your total purchase by using the code “LLINK” on their site!

Love Comma has adorable, modern breastfeeding clothes that are soft and durable with no zippers, snaps or buttons near babies cheeks! The clothes are comfortable to wear at home or out and about! Use the code “LOVECOMMA18” at check out to receive 15% off!

Fair Haven Health provided each mama with thawing breastmilk guidelines on a magnet, a milk bag, and 10% off, by using the code “MILKIES10” any purchase on their site! They have a variety of products that are helpful for all new mamas!

Clean Simple Eats has a variety of meal plans, that are SO yummy, and seasonally based that really help you eat healthy easily! You can get digital and hard copies of her meal plans. Use the code “LLINK” to receive $15 off!

Janae Kristen photography captured all these exquisite images for us at this class.  She has also captured many of the beautiful images shown in our classes, website, and on social media.  She does a beautiful job for weddings, maternity, newborn and lifestyle photography in Utah and is available to travel! She has offered an INCREDIBLE discount of $100 off birth stories when you mention this blog post!  Contact her directly at hello@janaekristen.com to book!

All of our mamas also received some Milestones cards so families can capture their new baby’s breastfeeding milestones! When you purchase our 3 video breastfeeding class bundle, you receive breastfeeding specific milestone cards to document your journey!

It was so great to have Cami Kesler, Family Nurse Practitioner there at class to share her top tips for finding the right healthcare provider for your baby.  She practices in the American Fork, UT Utah Valley Pediatrics office (801.756.5209 to book) and you can read tips on her Instagram @camikesler_nursepractitioner on Instagram.  

Class Instruction

All the goodies are the icing on the cake after my presentation of the best research-based breastfeeding tips and tricks. This includes info on the first feed, how to latch, how to hand-express and more! One tip I shared in class is taking advantage of the quiet-alert state to feed baby, rather than waiting until they are overly hungry and upset.

Ally said, “THANK YOU. Thank you a million times for helping new and super anxious moms like me relax, have fun, and LEARN that our bodies know what to do and we have all the tools we need to be successful. You didn’t sell us on anything or tell us to buy this or that product, you told us how to use what we have and be the best we could be. I LOVED this experience.”

This is ALWAYS my goal with teaching! Creating confident mamas is the number one purpose of this class!

We love hearing what our moms have to say about the Breastfeeding Basics class. Here is what a couple moms said…

Mingling & Photobooth

We don’t like to let pregnant mamas sit too long, so we had a break to stretch our legs and have a little fun! Our lunch break was INCREDIBLE, because Village Baker Lehi provided every attendee with a delicious sandwich, chips, and cookie the size of my face!

We also had a fun photo booth for moms to take pictures at before, during, and after instructional time! We love being able to see all the glowing mamas (and partners!) shine in these pictures!

Hands-on Learning

We were super excited to have so many moms and partners in class. We had 100 attendees in this class! In order for every mom to get individual hands-on practice, we broke out into four groups led by our expert team of IBCLCs. You can book an online or in-person consult with any of these ladies to help you with your personal breastfeeding goals/needs! They are awesome and LOVE to help! 

Click here to book an e-consultation. 

Click here to book an in-person consultation. 

You can use your healthcare savings account to pay for a consult too!

Stephanie taught on hand expression. Remember to start this right away after giving birth to maximize your colostrum output!  Stephanie will be your gal for a consult if you live in Utah County!

Bri went over positioning and helped mamas practice numerous different positions so that they can be prepared! Knowing multiple positions beforehand is so helpful so that you don’t have to stress about learning them once baby is here! Bri does consults in Salt Lake and Davis Counties. 

Kristin went over FAQs about breastfeeding and she is your gal for consults in Salt Lake and Utah Counties.

And I taught all about latch —  We had a fun object lesson using balloons — don’t forget, baby’s chin is basically a magic open button!

Q+A

We make sure that our attendees are able to have time to ask their questions. Making sure our community of moms feels supported and heard is a big part of who we are. Moms were welcome to ask questions during the presentations and we had designated Q&A time at the end. If you still have questions, please feel free to reach out!

More classes and events

If you couldn’t make it to this class, we have you covered! You can check out our video breastfeeding classes and you can watch them anytime, anywhere, from any smart device.

Our next class Breastfeeding Basics class will be on April 14th from 9am – 1 pm at Brick Canvas Loft in Lehi, UT. You can book tickets now via Eventbrite! Grab your seat now, we always sell out!

Click here to see ticket options!

Can’t wait to help another group of parents create confidence in their breastfeeding journey!

Thanks for stopping by,

XOXO Lindsey Shipley + The Lactation Link Team

Lactation Link September 2017 Breastfeeding Basics Class presented by Bravado Designs + Promo Codes

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Our amazing event venue sponsor, Brick Canvas is the place that just keeps on giving! You can read more about why you HAVE to visit their spa, by viewing this post on wellness. I love to do their hot yoga classes a few times per week and massages at Brick Canvas are top notch quality! Make sure you pamper yourself wherever you are (all the time, but especially during pregnancy!) For those who are local to Utah, I asked Brick Canvas if they could share a promotion with my readers and they did! Click through for a chance to save 15% on your Bravado Bra today.

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A community of women and wellness – Brick Canvas

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It can be hard to find a spot in the community that feels like home! A place we can go to be women, to be individuals, and to replenish and regenerate all that we give day-in and day-out as mothers. Somewhere we can meet other women who are in the same stage of life and are also striving to be mindful about how they live and how they love. As Moms or Mom-to-be, it’s so hard to make time for ourselves, but it’s so necessary for our physical, mental, and emotional well-being. Taking time out to fill our own cup actually allows us to be more present and give more love to our families. It doesn’t have to be a big deal or take all day. Here are a few ideas: take a 20-min walk around your neighborhood, take a warm bath, take a yoga class, schedule a massage, or meet a girlfriend for lunch. Today I’d love to share more with you about what I’ve discovered in this local wellness community, especially the salon and spa because that’s every Mom’s favorite anyway! Read through to find some exclusive promotions for Lactation Link readers.

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Breastfeeding Around the World: Part 1

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Breastfeeding, like many aspects of motherhood, is a universal phenomenon that can connect us to other mothers. This week, during World Breastfeeding Week, we are talking with moms from around the world about their experience breastfeeding. We hope you can feel connected to these moms and know that we are all doing our best to provide the best start for our children. Enjoy!

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Brickyard Buffalo Guest Editor

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I am so excited to be the Guest Editor over at Brickyard Buffalo today!

Brickyard Buffalo is a website designed to help you shop your favorite brands on a budget. They curate the trendiest items out there for a price you can afford. They work with ‘Guest Editors’ to help find great products and this month I’m lucky enough to have picked out some of my favorite shops and products to be featured for you to shop at a discounted price!

Here are a few of my picks!

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What not to eat while breastfeeding via lactationlink.com

What not to eat when breastfeeding

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Hi mamas! I’m Kristin Gourley, IBCLC. I’m a mom to 5 and lactation consultant with Lactation Link. I’m here today to debunk some myths about what not to eat when breastfeeding and if you need a breastfeeding diet. Thanks for stopping by!
Mothers from cultures all over the world have been breastfeeding for, well, forever.  Many cultures have unique foods that would be considered anything but bland.  These babies thrive even when their moms eat these flavorful foods, so we know it’s not something that needs to be universally avoided.

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Common Infertility Questions Answered

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Today we are so happy to have Dr. Conway from Utah Fertility Clinic answering common questions about infertility. Dr. Conway is board certified in Reproductive Endocrinology and Infertility; Obstetrics and Gynecology. 

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What is Infertility?

Infertility is the inability to conceive after a year with regular intercourse with no contraception.  

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How long after trying to conceive unsuccessfully should I see a doctor?

Eighty-five percent of couples will conceive within a year. Thus, any couple that’s been trying to conceive for a year should be evaluated to find out if there are any identifiable problems.  For women 35 and older, it’s prudent to only wait 6 months before seeking an evaluation, because egg reserve goes down over time and a shorter timeline into treatment can be helpful.

Common Infertility Questions

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What kind of Doctor should I go to first?

Seeing your Ob/GYN may be a reasonable first step.  You need three things: 1) health eggs, 2) healthy sperm, and 3) a normal reproductive tract, for pregnancy to happen.  Your workup should include checking for ovulation, a semen analysis, and evaluation of the reproductive tract with an ultrasound and usually a procedure called a hysterosalpingogram (HSG) or ‘dye test’ to check for tubal patency.  If you feel you are not getting a thorough workup, it is never too early to go straight to a fertility specialist for an efficient workup.

Common Infertility Questions

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What is the process of treating infertility? 

Because a specific diagnosis can be made in about 85% of couples, we treat the underlying problem.  If a woman is not ovulating, medications can be given to restore normal monthly ovulation.  If the sperm quality or concentration is low, treatments called intrauterine inseminations (IUIs) are performed to wash the sperm and place it through the cervix so it get’s a ‘jump start’ to the top of the uterus, right at the time of ovulation.  Seventy five percent of our patients can be treated with these less aggressive options.  In vitro fertilization is reserved for couples with more severe male factor, issues involving scarring of the fallopian tubes, or if the less aggressive treatments are not successful.  This option is more expensive but for most couples is highly successful.   

Common Infertility Questions

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What things can I do on my own to increase my fertility?

Working on physical and mental health can empower couples to optimize their chance of conceiving with or without treatment.  For instance, women that are above or below their ideal weight will have more ovulatory problems and a harder time conceiving.  Optimizing body weight with diet and exercise will help you to get pregnant faster.  In fact, a moderate amount of weekly exercise has recently been shown to be excellent for fertility, regardless of weight loss.  Think of a ‘Mediterranean diet’ when working on nutrition, incorporating more vegetables, protein, and complex carbohydrates.  Make it a lifestyle change instead of a ‘crash diet’.  Last but not least, add stress-reducing activities into your weekly routine. If that includes exercising with your spouse, even better!

What can I do to offer support if my friend is going through infertility?  

If you know someone is struggling with infertility, offer a listening ear and words of support in private.  Feel free to ask how they would like to be supported, since every person’s coping with infertility may be different.  Make sure to ask them about the many other important aspects of their life, as a reminder that the infertility they are experiencing does not define them as a person.  If they cry, seem distant, or even offended, cut them a little slack.  The grief experienced over infertility is complex, but a little love and compassion will go a long way.   

Common Infertility Questions

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What are your favorite thing about the families you work with?

It is a privilege to support couples through such an emotional and personal journey.  I cannot imagine a more rewarding job than helping couples build their families, and in a way, impact their lives forever. I walked into our procedure room to do an egg-retrieval a few weeks ago and this is what I saw written on the bottom of my patient’s socks:

Infertility questions

“THANK YOU DR CONWAY. WORK YOUR MAGIC. LUCKY SOCKS AND BABY DUST”.

I love getting to know my patients during their treatment (but not too well, since I want them to conceive quickly!), and my goal is that no matter what the outcome, each patient has the best experience possible.   
Top 3 tips to navigating the infertility treatment process

  1. Remember IVF is not the only option: though it gets the most media attention, most of our patients are able to conceive with less aggressive and less expensive options.
  2. Be your own advocate: get the answers you need to know what you are up against, so you can make an informed decision about what’s best for you.
  3. Take care of yourself and your relationship: find stress reduction through a new hobby or diversion.  Support each other emotionally, and remember to do activities together other than trips to you fertility doctor, which can sometimes feel like a full-time job!
Infertility Tips

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5 Biggest Misconceptions about Infertility

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Hello mamas! We are sharing different women’s infertility journeys each day this week for National Infertility Awareness Week.  We are so happy to have Elise from Hunters of Happiness here today to share her infertility journey and the 5 biggest misconceptions about infertility. 
5 Biggest Misconceptions About Infertility
When my husband and I started trying to start our family I was so excited! All I have ever wanted was to be a mom! I had no idea what a long road was ahead until we would hold a baby in our arms (you can watch our whole story here). After years of doctor’s appointments, ultrasounds, multiple blood draws each week, hundreds of shots, hundreds of negative pregnancy tests, two surgeries, a chemical pregnancy, a miscarriage and a miracle embryo we finally held our baby in our arms.

Over those years I learned a lot about infertility and a lot about myself. While it was the hardest thing I’ve ever been through, and I worry about going through it all again, I wouldn’t change it. I have learned so much about dealing with heartache, difficulty and how to help others going through trials.

5 biggest misconceptions about infertility

Today I will be sharing my top 5 misconceptions about infertility

  1.  JUST RELAX…IT WILL HAPPEN.

This is the most common and hurtful comment women struggling with infertility receive. Infertility is a disease. Can you imagine saying “just relax and you’ll be cured” to a person diagnosed with heart disease, diabetes or any other illness? No. That is because most people don’t recognize infertility as a real disease. Infertility is created by a variety of real illnesses including but not limited to Endometriosis, Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome, Uterine scarring, and Varicoceles.

This misconception that relaxing will cure infertility is also hurtful because it insinuates that infertility is mental. If someone has ever told you to relax, what has it done? I can probably guess that it didn’t make you relax, but probably just made you worked up. Infertility is a disease that rears it’s ugly head everyday. It is not something that can easily be forgotten. Women have monthly physical reminders that they are not pregnant and are often receiving treatments, have weekly doctors visits, blood draws, pills and shots to remind them.

Next time someone you know tells you they’re struggling with infertility, the absolute best thing you can say is “I’m so sorry. That is so incredibly hard”. Validating that what they are experiencing is real is very comforting and supportive.

 

  1.  WHY DON’T YOU JUST ADOPT?

I had this question so many times! And I think it is definitely one of the most misunderstood aspects about infertility.

People would ask me often, “why don’t you JUST adopt?”. Oh how I would LOVE to! I LOVE adoption! But it’s not JUST adopt. Adoption is not a simple process like most people assume. Adoption is often more emotionally trying than infertility treatments. Many adoptions fall through at the last minute or birth mothers change their minds. It can be incredibly emotionally hard.  Also, filing out paperwork, getting home studies, creating a blog, website or scrapbook of photos, and then waiting to be chosen by a birth mother is often a long process. Adoption is also, more often than not, considerably more expensive than fertility treatments.

So while so many of us with infertility would just LOVE to adopt, it is not as easy as it might seem. We are educated on our options and will choose to go down the path of adoption if we feel that is what is best for us.

 

  1.  MAYBE INFERTILE PEOPLE JUST AREN’T SUPPOSED TO HAVE CHILDREN

Or something similar, like, “Maybe God has another plan for you.”

Sometimes it is confusing to me why this is ever said. If you were to translate this question to other medical diseases it would sound a little bit like this “Maybe you were meant to die of cancer, so why do chemo treatments? Maybe God had a plan for you to spend your life in a wheelchair, so don’t bother with that prosthetic.”  

Medical advances exist so that people can live better, longer and happier lives!  Why is the disease of infertility one that shouldn’t be treated?

 

  1.  YOU ALREADY HAVE KIDS, YOU’RE NOT INFERTILE

Another misconception about infertility is that you can not suffer from it if you already have had children. This is not true and is referred to as Secondary Infertility.

This infertility diagnosis is often the result of complications after a previous birth or can have no cause. Secondary infertility is extremely difficult for the couples experiencing it, and should not be minimized simply because they already have a child or children.  

I have experienced secondary infertility first hand but in a different way than most. My parents had me without issue, but then experienced secondary infertility. The ache I felt for a sibling was real and I watched the pain of my parents as they wanted nothing more than to give me that sibling and to have another child.

 

  1.  INFERTILITY MEANS IVF

Actually, fewer than 3% of couples struggling with infertility will need to do In-vitro fertilization. There are many less invasive treatment options!

Fertility Specialists (Reproductive Edocrinologists) recommend you see them if you are under 35 and healthy (regular periods) and have not conceived after trying for 12 months. And for those over 35, to visit a specialist after trying for 6 months.

A big misconception is that you need a referral from your OBGYN to see a fertility specialist. For most Reproductive Endocrinologists you can just call their office and schedule an initial appointment. Initial consults often just involve some diagnostic work and questions.

5 Biggest misconceptions about infertility

Well, those are what I believe to be the top misconceptions about Infertility. I hope that you were able to learn something new about a disease that affects so many!

Infertilty Journey : Jess Oakes of Positively Oakes

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Hello mamas! We are sharing different women’s infertility journeys this week for National Infertility Awareness Week.  We are so happy to have Jess from Positively Oakes Blog here today to share her infertility journey and how to help a friend struggling with infertility. 

 

 

When I was a teenager, I sat in the doctor’s office gown and all waiting for her return. I was close to 17 and still hadn’t started my period, so tests were being ran, things were being looked at and honestly I remember not caring much. The only thoughts in my mind were, can we get this show on the road? I have places to be, a boyfriend to hang out with and whatever else. I was a teenager, what did I care if I didn’t have a period? The doctor walked back in, with a serious look on her face. She said, “It looks like you have Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome.” Oh, okay, great. My Mom has that, no big thing. Then she proceeded, “It’s a little bit worse than the average case and I just want to prepare you and let you know that, you’re most likely going to have trouble getting pregnant, if you even can at all.” I remember the thought coming into my head, well, that sucks. Honestly though, again, it didn’t really hit me that hard. I was young, children weren’t a priority at that point and well, my Mom had gotten pregnant, so eh? Whatever.

Fast forward many years and there I was, having the discussion with my future husband, only this time with tears streaming down my face and an awful pit in my stomach. “I just wanted to let you know, I might not be able to have babies. I totally understand if this changes things, I’m so sorry.” He wrapped his arms around me and just held me. It didn’t change anything, he loved me just as much and that feeling of peace in that moment, I clung to that.  

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Shortly after getting married, we decided to go ahead and just not necessarily “try” for a baby, but not stop it either. We knew the odds weren’t in my favor, so we figured why not just leave the possibility open and put it in God’s hands. Before I knew it I was becoming obsessed with it. A year into it and I found myself taking pregnancy tests every, single, month. Now I longed for a baby. I wanted a baby so badly, we both did. He was about to be done with school in the next month, our lives were starting and it seemed like everyone around us was pregnant or starting their family. Every single time I saw that negative test, again, my heart ached. It hurt so incredibly bad, I felt broken. Like something was wrong with me, why was my body broken? Why did he marry me? I couldn’t give us a family, my body couldn’t do the one thing that it was meant to do.

He graduated college and we decided it was time to start putting a little bit more effort into it. We met with a fertility specialist, did a whole lot of testing and then the journey really began. I thought I was in pain for that year before…I was in for a rude awakening. The next few years proved to be some of the hardest of my life, still to this day. The doctor started us on a low dosage of fertility medication, we did that for a few months, blood work twice a month, ovulation kits and everything in between. A few months later, it still wasn’t working, so he upped the dosage. Two months of that, still no luck, so he upped it one more time, this time to the highest he could go. Still, nothing; not one single positive ovulation, not one single good blood result, a whole lot of negative pregnancy tests, all negative. I hurt, I was in so much pain. How much more of this could I take? All the blood work, all the medication making me a crazy person, all the hormones, negative test after negative test, I couldn’t do it. This was too hard of a trial, this wasn’t fair, why did I get this? Why did every single person around me get to have a baby? Why did people younger than me get to have TWO babies already and I couldn’t even have one?!

During all of this we moved back home to Idaho, my heart still broken and my mind feeling more lost than ever. We met with a new doctor, transferred all of my medical history and took a month break. My body just couldn’t handle it anymore, I was 25 and having hot flashes, mental breakdowns, I was literally on an emotional rollercoaster. The bills were piling up, the more we had to do costs just kept getting higher and higher and I found myself pleading with God every single night, begging him for a baby. We continued on with more fertility treatments, all failing, then a new medication, again, no luck. Then finally, we met with a doctor to start IUI. I went in for the initial testing, blood work drawn, you know, for the 300th time (no joke). I went home from that appointment at my wits end. I was done. I couldn’t do it anymore. I remember balling, literally just crying my eyes out to the point where I couldn’t breath, where I had to pull over because I couldn’t see anything.

The phone rang, it was a number I didn’t know so I didn’t answer it. I was in the middle of a crying session, I didn’t have time to deal with a phone call. Up popped a voicemail, I pushed the play button with my shaking, tired hands and set it down on the console on speaker phone. It was the doctor’s nurse, she said, “Jessica, will you please call me as soon as possible?” Great — now what? What the hell else can go wrong? Am I totally broken? Is this not even a possibility? I reluctantly called back, asked for the nurse then sat there on hold for what felt like forever.

“Hello, Jessica?”

“Yes, this is me.”

“So I got some of your bloodwork back and I’ve got some news for you..”

“Okay, what is it?”

“You’re pregnant.”

I couldn’t breathe, I literally dropped the phone my hands were shaking so much. All I could say what “What? I’m what?” to which she confirmed excitedly, “YOU’RE PREGNANT!” That was the happiest day of my life. I hung up the phone and sat there, still crying, only this time the happiest of tears. It was a miracle, our miracle baby.

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She was born July 3, 2015 and I’ve never felt a love like I do for such a small little human being. I can’t even describe how happy she makes me, how in love I am. She’s perfect, she’s all ours and she’s honestly a miracle.

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Now, she’s almost two and here we are facing the same infertility battles for a second time, only this time worse than before. I had complications shortly after having her, which required a small procedure, but made it even harder than before to get pregnant. We’ve met with specialist after specialist and this time have been told I’ll only be able to get pregnant with IVF. So here we are, the same feelings, the same disappointments, only a little more challenging than before. As much as it sucks and as hard as it is though, I just have to remind myself of the miracle baby we already have. We’ve been sharing this journey though through YouTube and my blog and honestly, it’s been therapeutic for me. Infertility isn’t something that people talk about enough, it’s one of the loneliest things, no matter how many people you have around you. So we’re sharing our journey, talking about everything and keeping things totally raw and real.

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One question that we get asked a lot, is how do you help someone going through infertility? So I thought I would quickly answer that as a final thought. Every, single, person going through infertility is going to react differently, they’re going to want something different as far as support and their situation will be unique. Don’t generalize their circumstances, don’t downplay it and just listen to them. Be there for them to talk, to cry to or to just take their mind off of everything. Be sensitive of the things you say and don’t make things awkward. We know what we’re going through, it’s generally not a big secret, but we don’t know how to handle it any better than you do. Just love them, support them and pray for them.

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